if he's cheating make him spaghetti voodoo

Finding out he’s been sleeping with men for the last 2 years but blamed me since “I was boring” and so on…after 6 years I did it. Your right. Hope this helps. It was simple right? Needless to say, when I receive a call based on the N dialing a wrong number I simply don’t respond. Now, he was trying to act angry. Hello ladies you can do this we dont need people like that .. i went nc about 20 minutes ago after a few years of total abuse n rows n verbal insults ..and i can already feel the junk feelings washing off me.i plan to shower and visualise all the crap just running away down the drain.. there is an app on play store by john smith called extreme call blocker man it works … i have it set to hang up if doolally del rings and sms are erased soon as they hit my phone.. im in the uk if any body wants to chat ??? It took him a while to answer he had to hide the other ph. I pray, I cry, I try to talk. They are so insecure they have to keep checking to reassure themselves that they made the right decision…. Look at the reality of what you have lost or had given up not what YOU wanted it to look like…. He kept making promises that he or his family would pay me back – he moved in with me right away , pretending he was only going to stay a few days. If things don’t go right on his life it’s never his fault. Heavy insults from her were directed toward me as she even had my daughter team up with her against me. I challenged him, and went to his level. Breaking my stuff) I moved out and went no contact with all of them immediately. I am flabbergasted! But STOP any contact!!! You deserve more. He likes to glare at me from across the room while draping himself over his latest girlfriend. on their side. I had also had my counter petition dismissed because we were back together forever, right? I had been with him for 4 years by the age of 21, and there was always a part of me that wanted to date others, see what was out there. What Savannah said is so true.. I literally felt like I was texting a guy I met off a dating app, much less an ex that had just recently dumped me and was trying to get me back. Feels like gaslithing ur self forcing her to some inhuman reality. These men will never be healthy . This is the exact way he talks. After 1.5 yrs in the most draining “relationship” of my life I have been NC with the narc for over two months. I thought maybe his charm will work on some other girl and ur can be her problem but I can’t seem to just say goodbye without a motive or excuse. ... hysterectomy, tells me I have been places out of the country with other men. Mine just discarded me for new supply overnight. Bottom line…….. For all the professions of how “close” he felt to me, and how much I mean to him, and all the blah blah blah, he can’t help but be who he is, and after maybe a month – 5 weeks, I simply went back to no contact. Almost a year to the day of him leaving me, again, for a another woman and after 9 months of no contact. What is the difference between a sociopath and a narcissist? It only get’s better. He then started stalking me and threatening me. He has no chance in hell with me and he knows it. I’ve never felt like this before. Today he said he missed me and he loved me. Join our mailing list and receive our weekly posts right to your inbox, Narcissists, No Contact and the Spaghetti Technique, Putting the Focus on You – Where it Should Always Be, Having a Big Heart vs Being Empathic Know the Difference, Do You Know How to Love? Then he acts like he doesnt understand why I cant trust him. So just recently, he texted me again (LOL). I thank the author for this article because it pretty much descries the situation I’m going through currently. Just coming off a 3 year relationship with a narc. I blocked him on all social media’s and from my phone. I was no contact for over 9 months, he tried and he tried and I never responded. It is just so textbook. God is so good! I see HER CAR EVERYWHERE! Last year he would pretend to be concerned, but he was being nosy, so I had my mother tell him I have a boyfriend to stop his spying, this year hes going nuts, and he told my mother he wants me to drop it. You don’t respond, but your mind starts to travel in that direction. Sometimes it just hours, sometimes it’s days but it’s been to the point where he’s gone 2 weeks without talking to me. I found that when I was able to step back for a moment and see the whole picture the destructive areas became clearly visible across the horizon of my life. I did not realize exactly what he was through our relationship and only started researching after my therapist brought it to my attention. I opened it. I divorced them both but cannot get free….They are now allies with similar frustration with my recovery and ability to no longer be coerced and to no longer fight. “Being in contact with you is not healthy for me. like humpty dumpty! Do you expect me to turn my back on a friend when they need my help? you deserve a mate. Thank goodness for Web sites like these to help me think straight. Again, Im telling you that its not worth your time if you still wish to go back w/ a narc- nope. I PRAY FOR EACH AND EVERYONE THAT HAS EVER HAD A RELATIONSHIP WITH THESE MONSTERS.TO FIND THE COURAGE TO LEAVE THEM AND HAVE A MUCH HAPPIER LIFE WITHOUT THEIR POISON IN THERE LIVES!!! Great post. Going back more than once, then being discarded again. Even now 2 months later, I still find out what he’s been up to, how many women he’s been cheating on me with. I also found a great therapist to help me remember to question my feelings and motives behind any thoughts I have of missing him or contacting him. You’ve done all the right things. And what do you know the next night I met to talk with him. And that’s the best! because you have love and are normal. You must be a member in order to leave a comment. It is such a battle… But thank you. I feel like this endless cycle of torture will never stop. You have to realize — and this is hard to accept — that those were all empty words, carefully constructed to pull you in. This is speculation, but it seems clear that their relationship is a little beyond professional. I dated my narc for 6 months and it was a casual relationship, which I never would’ve thought in the beginning because he love bombed the crap out of me and said he wanted all the same things I did. He disappeared on me in December and then reappeared in July saying all the right things. My son now hates him. Thank you for this blog – super helpful – especially when I can’t find a friend to help me. Worn out. Learn how your comment data is processed. Our back togetherness last 6 days. They keep tabs because they want to know if you are still available to them. I have been no contact from my narcissist since Aug. 19, before that I broke no contact after 15 days. And it’s ok too. I took him back and spent a year flying to see him. 16 years marriage with a narc and still trapped. Blaming me for having responsibilities as a single mom. Never move on and get a life. Him contacting me just makes me angry now! Do I have to go about the mean way by just quickly and without warning block her from everything and treat her like an enemy? If you’re wonderful, then he’ll feel terrible about betraying you, but if he can turn you into someone awful and make that a reason for him to cheat, on some level, it might make him … I live alone with my two daughters and sometimes I can’t sleep at night thinking he will come to my house. I had proof and he was still lying. Aka drinking with his friends at kona grill. Thank God there are no kids together here. Subscribe to our mailing list and receive our weekly posts right to your inbox. He won’t stop emailing me though (it’s sent to spam, but I check them to make sure he’s not going to come after me in person.) It’s ALL because of the love-bombing!!! The problem is that if you contact him and get your relief, the urges will just get stronger and stringer. Trust me, what’s underneath is full of rage and hate (self-directed) and tremendous insecurity and lack of any real self-worth. he started throwing accusations at me. He started criticizing little things about me. As for the gift – generally they are terrible gift givers but it depends on the situation. Remain confident and in control of you. Our convo was going nowhere. She then refused to deposit her pay checks into our account and instead, it was deposited into one of her accounts. It’s been a year and a half since absolute No Contact, no reaction, no word from my side. Now it’s just a matter of planting enough doubt and confusion into your mind about his behavior and then twisting it to somehow make it all your fault, so that you start to doubt your decision and what actually happened. It’s hard to reconcile the teenager I fell in love with who was sweet and funny,with the version of him who had some sort of mental breakdown, and the version of him who was pure evil. I am NOT crazy and know full well that 99% of what he says never even occurred, the other 1% he has twisted an innocent event into something disgusting. Becomes offended easily when you make normal and natural inquiries and may demand to know why you are checking up on him or her. The Spaghetti Test. I could never understand why there was always a shortage of money. I think you should do the same too. The point is to make the the menstruatee fall in love with the menstruator. Best of luck to all! No spaghetti for me, I guess. A cheating partner, on the other hand, may get angry, shut down, or tell you to stop being so jealous. I am currently on month five after breaking up with my narcissist boyfriend of four years. 2) at the same ur using this techniques ur doing a lot of harm to self coz ur thinking acting feeling out of ur self . But walk it. Good for you. It was gross. Your right it is so very hard to give up this cycle. This is exactly what my ex narc is doing now. Your hating them doesn’t mean a thing to them. Hit the nail right on the head. I know I kept ignoring mine. It’s not been a week since I put him out. One breath, I want him to email me and the same breath I know it will lead to no good. Always so nice and sweet and kind for the first week or so, inviting me over, cooking dinner for me — then goes back to the same old crap, accusing me of horrible disgusting behavior with every man I’ve ever known. The best way to see a narcissist’s true face is to reach the point in which you realize that he is able to completely and mercilessly destroy you. I have gone NC any number of times but he turns on that you know I love you Crap and it is so convincing. If you feel neglected in your married life, then it's time to make your guy jealous and make him realize your worth. I work as an LEO and worked a lot through the years, even on my off days. In reading this blog and the comments, I feel for so many of us who have been victims of a narcissist. Please keep your NC.DO NOT ALLOW the Narcissist to get in contact with you at all!! You didn’t HAVE to let me come over” This man has causes me to almost take my own life twice in the last 6 years. 1st time it happened I was in a very dark place but managed to pull myself out. And, yikes. Thank you! It was such a long relationship that transpired over my formative years, and he erased who I was, and made it so that I was never becoming anything, that now I’m not sure I know how to be a person. Run, away as fast as you can and never look back! I would suggest you find a counselor and support group who are experts in this area and have lots of experience in dealing with Narcissism. It feels like I am starting all over again. The question is: Will he leave me alone, OR Will he now try to become forceful by actually seeing me in person. Not through text, calls, email, social media, other people or in person. It sad to say I spent 10 years of my life dealing with him. We’ve communicated for the entire time until I finally lied to him saying I was on a retreat for a month. I only got to know him as he was working in my area. Even after I told him that I couldn’t, and that I didn’t think it was a good idea. I truly thought they were my friends. I choose a different thought. cut these emotional and mental vampires off your life source or they will sick you dry. Then suddenly, at a family gathering, he started to acknowledge me, giving me a big hug. Every article I’ve read describes him to a T. I had always considered myself an extremely strong person but the impact on my life that continues is horrifying to me. (She left her husband for him.). I said absolutely not. A lot of the time just being in their company i found to be cringe worthy Thats all that matters. When I did this as an exercise during counseling I was able to stand on the other side of the fence if you will, and look at the situation with new eyes. i miss him. Attorney says I’m letting him get away with not being responsible. So I sujested 4 him to go get us something sweet Let’s go out to dinner and talk about it. Helen…please remember HE is the sick one. Oh then I asked him about the 2 women who were listed in his phone as guy’s names. She is gas lighting, trying to involve fiends and family (part of which have believed her lies about me and turned on me) and still I refuse to feed this narcissistic game any longer. Misery loves company as reading many of the other posts on here I too experience many of these qualities. All the listed symptoms, definitions, and actions by a narcissist, fit her completely. Then proceeding to ask my how I was and do I want a hug and trying to tug at my heart strings by doing gestures trying to touch me or tweak my nose like he used to. I should have known that when she left the house and moved out, and left $9.19 in my checking account, what it was all about……..my retirement pension, alimony, child support, and anything else she thinks she’s entitled to. After 8 years with my narcissist, I left. Are you talking about voodoo spaghetti which is an actual dish. Which I have done. I was so strong with the no contact for the first month then I gave in one night but I wasn’t nice at all. He showed no empathy or reaction towards the loss, just like everything else. These are some reasons why he won't leave you alone. unfixable. I’m manifesting the thoughts I create.. I’m in the process of filing for a divorce. Is it to get him back or is to heal yourself and move on. I was so wrong. As much as I wanted to go back to him becasue Idk the love I had for him was like I ever had for no other guy. I cried and wished I fell asleep and never woke up! We have broken up at least 50 times and I always caved in. I was the only one trying to make life better for us but in speaking to him there is nothing I can do to pleaae him or make him happy, so I’m out. 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